Communication vs Comprehension

I spent part of my past year teaching children how to understand what they read. (I tell you, that in itself is a skill, but that’s not today’s topic of discussion). One of the lessons that I learned in that period, is that what humans hear, and what they understand, can be 2 entirely different concepts (I legit started to see it in conversation and interaction around me).


If you have ever sat in one of my Personal Branding sessions on Communication, then, we’d have gone through the basics:

  • How communication goes beyond what you say
  • How your choice of words can convey an entirely different meaning
  • How to choose your words to reflect your thoughts and respect the environment so you don’t get misunderstood
  • How to use body language to reinforce what you are saying (or not saying)

…and a whole lot of other stuff. But that’s not what this is about. (If you’re interested in that sort of information, let’s talk about it).


Today, I want us to take a quick look at COMPREHENSION. You see, you can be doing all the right things to communicate your point, but the person is not getting your point for one of several reasons:

  1. They don’t understand you because of their own perception (for more about this, take a look
  2. Their mindset is clouded, because their experiences have not brought them to the point where what you are sharing with them is a possibility in their mind. (Your point just ends up going over their heads).
  3. They already have a firm opinion in mind that they really want to pass across or hold tight to.
  4. They do not want to understand you (probably a bit of fear and/or stubbornness at play here)
  5. I don’t know (lol. You could tell me in the comment section)


Lol. The bottom line is, sometimes, it’s not enough to try to pass your point across as succinctly as possible, because until they understand it, COMMUNICATION has NOT happened. Yup! Take a look at this scenario: you are running late for your test, and you need to send a text message to your professor in advance, so that he’ll let you into the class when you eventually arrive in the class, even though you’d be late and he is not supposed to. Here’s  the deal: that text you sent has not accomplished the goal (of getting you permission or excuse to be late) until it is delivered AND read (preferably acknowledged too). Do you see?


Communication goes way beyond flinging information at people and walking away: you’d often have to deliver your message appropriately, ensure that they understand your point, and then get feedback (this is practically why I enjoy reading your comments and questions in the comment section and in my e-mail. It helps me know where to go next, how to build on what we have and deliver better value, and make us better people). It’s a two-way thing that doesn’t end with making your point, but with implementing the action plan that you generated to move forward from where you are.


Whether you are building a relationship, enjoying a friendship, passing information to your boss, or relating with your child, communicating effectively is pivotal, and the results are best seen when you approach it with an aim to achieve comprehension.


(For more on effective methods of comprehension, I’VE GOT YOU)




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Jane Oluwadare

She helps neurodivergent people build income models, sustainable systems and learning structures suited to their own unique contexts, strengths and abilities.

Schooled as a Biochemist with clinical exposure and practice, the graduate of the University of Ibadan has spent several years curating knowledge and expressing the many facets of her talents and personality. She is now committed to showing the next generation how to do everything, and win by building bridges from the past, leveraging history, technology and innovation to forge a future that works for them.

As a coach, she continues to work with individuals (with special focus on neurodivergent people) to work through choke points in their different facets, finding strategies that'll push them through to the next phase.

With over 15 years of sewing under her belt, she has over time in her experience with a wide range of female clothing and the female form, constructed entire wardrobes from the scratch. She brings this wealth of exposure and experience to bear in running her fashion house (Hadassah's Stitches Fashion House), guiding the production of dresses for sale, leveraging on her gift for fabric selection to suit contexts and soothe sensory needs. She also teaches classes on garment construction, pattern drafting and the business of fashion.

An International Youth Council member and Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organizations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young people to create a life of impact.

An avid food lover, chef and food critic, Hadassah spends her time creating new dishes, working as a private chef and running ZoéSpice Kitchen and Events. She is also curating her uniquely crafted kitchen secrets to be passed on. She puts all of her medical and nutritional experience together with over a decade of cooking and crafting recipes to create meal plans for her clients, helping them achieve a healthy lifestyle and desired body goal, based on everyday food items.

At the heart of her entrepreneurial ventures, she is the Executive Director of CriArt Skill Academy, a tech-driven school for creatives and neurodivergents to learn creative, social and life skills as backed up by their school curriculum. The wide array of options mean that no one is left behind, and there's an option that works for every student.

An avid writer, she uses her books and articles to educate, inform and entertain, making them valuable supporting resources in her work as a coach, mentor and teacher. They are available as e-copies, audiobooks, and in print.

At Phronesis Lighthouse, she continues to link people with knowledge, and ready to share, with people who are hungry to learn via programs, training, courses, and networking events.

She speaks, trains and consults, and has received numerous awards across her various spheres of influence.

At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfillment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression).

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