Mask Off (2) – Non-speaking spells

Not too long ago, I came face to face with just how long I had hidden in non-verbal spells as against an external meltdown. The withdrawal and shut down. The inability to speak, and if forced, the stutters, the frustrated tears, the immense effort needed to hide all if this from the public view, and only present my articulate, eloquent side to the public (even immediate family).

It feels good to not mask anymore – it’s been the beginning of finding coping strategies that actually work alongside my much craved peace of mind.

It’s a lot of healing, but perhaps my biggest gift has been a boss who knows, who sees me, who demands more without putting me down, and gave me lots of room as well as responsibilities.
The space to unravel without falling apart, to build without pressure. The structure without routine. It’s like canvas without borders and grid lines but no outlines: the absolute freedom to be. To be better.

Thank you so much DDK

Because of this experience, the dream to build neurodivergent – friendly institutions and workspaces is no longer just a wild dream, but an achievable vision, and we get closer to it everyday.

Jane Hadassah OLUWADARE
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The Father’s Daughter

Author: Jane Oluwadare
Jane solves hard problems so you don't stay stuck Jane (Hadassah) OLUWADARE is an autistic, dyslexic multi-dimensional woman who uses her different dimensions to amplify one another, and is committed to showing other neurodivergent people how to replicate working wisdom in their respective contexts. In the PKH Network, she brings her various facets, strengths and skills to work together in viable business models, creating solutions for other visionaries, and providing platforms for young people to grow into their own strengths, develop experience and expertise As a data analyst, strategist and business development consultant in PKH Consulting, she sits with business structures to help them identify the gaps in their processes, build the blueprints, strategy, process flows and structures that will get them from where they are to where they want to be. As a productivity and execution coach in PHRONESIS Lighthouse, she works with neurodivergent people to get more productive, and do more with less effort, with particular attention to autistic people and people with ADHD. As a fashion consultant in HSFH, she styles, illustrates, and brings 15+ years of sewing experience to bear as she works to produce and sell stylish clothing that meets sensory, functional and fashionable needs. She teaches creative and trade skills in CriArt Skill Academy, working with neurodivergent children (with particular attention to autism, dyslexia and ADHD) to show them how their natural talents and tendencies can be an advantage inside and outside of the classroom and school curriculum. Utilising games and play as tools, as well as drawing from her own personal experience as a designer, chef and writer she helps them transfer the skills from the creative arts into school subjects and real life. She writes extensively, sharing her thoughts in books, articles and through her various enterprises as creative stories and non-fiction think-pieces available in Books By Hadassah. An International Youth Council member and former Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organisations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young adults to create a life of impact. At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfilment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic, dyslexic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression)

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