Perception in Speech

Perception is everything (yup! I know – it sounds cliche. But when you take a moment to consider that cliches are cliches because of the iota of truth they contain….). Perception is the lens through you see the world, sort of like your eye to observe and interprete ANYTHING that your senses detect. So how does perception colour communication? 


I’m responsible for what I say. You are responsible for what you hear. Why? Personal perception colours every single thing that you see or hear and will often shade my innocent words with your experience, background and past experiences.

Half the time when you think someone has an attitude problem? Someone’s perception of offense has been activated way before the offending action or reaction.


A quick test/filter for offense is to weigh the issue in question, and imagine that it’s coming from an entirely different person. How would you react?


So, before you blow up in that person’s face, fight ego with ego or completely overreact, check your heart.

  1. Is this triggered by a previous experience? Am I about to make this person pay for someone else’s sin?
  2. Is this annoying because of a previous issue with this person that I haven’t resolved yet?
  3. Is this a genuine problem?


If there’s any yes in there, please fix the issues at stake. If not, just go ahead and be you. The bottom line? Don’t let their weirdness make you mad. Don’t let their bad make you misbehave. Forgive, let go, and grow.


You often cannot alter how others perceive your words amd actions, but you can get deliberate about what you say and how you say it. Be responsible for what you say (No hidden comments/undertones, no thorns in the roses, and definitely no shading).




Author: Jane Oluwadare
Jane solves hard problems so you don't stay stuck Jane (Hadassah) OLUWADARE is an autistic, dyslexic multi-dimensional woman who uses her different dimensions to amplify one another, and is committed to showing other neurodivergent people how to replicate working wisdom in their respective contexts. In the PKH Network, she brings her various facets, strengths and skills to work together in viable business models, creating solutions for other visionaries, and providing platforms for young people to grow into their own strengths, develop experience and expertise As a data analyst, strategist and business development consultant in PKH Consulting, she sits with business structures to help them identify the gaps in their processes, build the blueprints, strategy, process flows and structures that will get them from where they are to where they want to be. As a productivity and execution coach in PHRONESIS Lighthouse, she works with neurodivergent people to get more productive, and do more with less effort, with particular attention to autistic people and people with ADHD. As a fashion consultant in HSFH, she styles, illustrates, and brings 15+ years of sewing experience to bear as she works to produce and sell stylish clothing that meets sensory, functional and fashionable needs. She teaches creative and trade skills in CriArt Skill Academy, working with neurodivergent children (with particular attention to autism, dyslexia and ADHD) to show them how their natural talents and tendencies can be an advantage inside and outside of the classroom and school curriculum. Utilising games and play as tools, as well as drawing from her own personal experience as a designer, chef and writer she helps them transfer the skills from the creative arts into school subjects and real life. She writes extensively, sharing her thoughts in books, articles and through her various enterprises as creative stories and non-fiction think-pieces available in Books By Hadassah. An International Youth Council member and former Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organisations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young adults to create a life of impact. At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfilment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic, dyslexic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression)

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