Perception is everything (yup! I know – it sounds cliche. But when you take a moment to consider that cliches are cliches because of the iota of truth they contain….). Perception is the lens through you see the world, sort of like your eye to observe and interprete ANYTHING that your senses detect. So how does perception colour communication?
I’m responsible for what I say. You are responsible for what you hear. Why? Personal perception colours every single thing that you see or hear and will often shade my innocent words with your experience, background and past experiences.
Half the time when you think someone has an attitude problem? Someone’s perception of offense has been activated way before the offending action or reaction.
A quick test/filter for offense is to weigh the issue in question, and imagine that it’s coming from an entirely different person. How would you react?
So, before you blow up in that person’s face, fight ego with ego or completely overreact, check your heart.
- Is this triggered by a previous experience? Am I about to make this person pay for someone else’s sin?
- Is this annoying because of a previous issue with this person that I haven’t resolved yet?
- Is this a genuine problem?
If there’s any yes in there, please fix the issues at stake. If not, just go ahead and be you. The bottom line? Don’t let their weirdness make you mad. Don’t let their bad make you misbehave. Forgive, let go, and grow.
You often cannot alter how others perceive your words amd actions, but you can get deliberate about what you say and how you say it. Be responsible for what you say (No hidden comments/undertones, no thorns in the roses, and definitely no shading).