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September 26, 2020
The Currency of Relationships
Currency of Relationships

The Currency of Relationships

“The currency of relationships is tricky, yet the most natural thing in the world.” – P. K. Hadassah 2018

 

One of the most annoying statements I’ve heard from a person, is “I value relationships”. Half the time, when someone has to say that, they’re looking for personal gain, and can feel it slipping through their fingers. You see, the currency of relationships is not predicated on the relationship itself, but vested in the person, and so you don’t need to focus on the relationship to spend that currency.

 

Did you catch that? Let me break it down. Have you ever loved a child? They can’t give you anything. They can’t help you to grow. They can’t do anything for you (that’s actually a big fat lie: there’s a whole lot that children can do for you, but for the sake of this writing, we’ll go with the flow). Do you know how to love a child? You do everything that they need, that’s within your capacity, and then some. You give of your self: your time, your person, your presence. When you’re with them, you are physically there. You reach out, check on them when they go silent, teach them when they go wrong, show them how to do better….

The child, recognizes your love, even when you don’t say the words, and they vibe back to you. They do random stuff to make you happy, go out of their way to please you, hug you with reckless abandon, and defend you when you’re not there (most children do). You don’t have to ask a child to do those things. They do it naturally for those they sense love them (it’s almost like an unseen radar that we have no idea how it works). They do these things thay make you so happy, that you unconsciously begin to do more. That cycle, is the currency of relationships, because you both grow to a point where you want to please the other.

 

That’s how to love a child …and that’s how to love a human: selflessly, without bounds or limits, or a hidden agenda/gain.

Hadassah (Excerpt from Kingdom Money Matters)

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Schooled as a medical Biochemist, the graduate of University of Ibadan has spent several years expressing the many facets to her personality, and is now committed to showing the next generation how to do everything, and win.

As a coach, she continues to work with individuals to work through choke points in their different facets, finding strategies that'll push them through to the next phase.

With over 15 years of sewing under her belt, she has not only constructed entire wardrobes from the scratch, she brings the wealth of exposure and experience to bear in running her fashion house (Hadassah's Stitches Fashion House) and teaching classes on garment construction, pattern drafting and the business of fashion.

A Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organizations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young people to create a life of impact.

An avid food lover, chef and food critic, Hadassah spends her time creating new dishes, running ZoéSpice Kitchen and Events, as well as teaching uniquely crafted kitchen secrets to the next generation. She also puts all of her medical and nutritional experience together with over a decade of cooking and crafting recipes to create meal plans for her clients, helping them achieve a healthy lifestyle and desired body goal, based on everyday food items.

At the heart of her entrepreneurial ventures, she is the Executive Director of CriArt Skill Academy, a tech-driven school for creatives and by creatives to learn creative skills as backed up by their school curriculum, from the comfort of their homes.

An avid writer, her books and articles are available as e-copies, audiobooks and in print.

At Phronesis Lighthouse, she continues to link up people with knowledge, and ready to share, with people who are hungry to learn via programs, trainings, courses and networking events.

And at the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced, and finds the ultimate fulfillment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and Policy formation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression).

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