“The currency of relationships is tricky, yet the most natural thing in the world.” – P. K. Hadassah 2018
One of the most annoying statements I’ve heard from a person, is “I value relationships”. Half the time, when someone has to say that, they’re looking for personal gain, and can feel it slipping through their fingers. You see, the currency of relationships is not predicated on the relationship itself, but vested in the person, and so you don’t need to focus on the relationship to spend that currency.
Did you catch that? Let me break it down. Have you ever loved a child? They can’t give you anything. They can’t help you to grow. They can’t do anything for you (that’s actually a big fat lie: there’s a whole lot that children can do for you, but for the sake of this writing, we’ll go with the flow). Do you know how to love a child? You do everything that they need, that’s within your capacity, and then some. You give of your self: your time, your person, your presence. When you’re with them, you are physically there. You reach out, check on them when they go silent, teach them when they go wrong, show them how to do better….
The child, recognizes your love, even when you don’t say the words, and they vibe back to you. They do random stuff to make you happy, go out of their way to please you, hug you with reckless abandon, and defend you when you’re not there (most children do). You don’t have to ask a child to do those things. They do it naturally for those they sense love them (it’s almost like an unseen radar that we have no idea how it works). They do these things thay make you so happy, that you unconsciously begin to do more. That cycle, is the currency of relationships, because you both grow to a point where you want to please the other.
That’s how to love a child …and that’s how to love a human: selflessly, without bounds or limits, or a hidden agenda/gain.
Hadassah (Excerpt from Kingdom Money Matters)
