March 1, 2021
What can separate me from the love of making a beautiful dress?

What can separate me from the love of making a beautiful dress?

What can separate me from the love of making a beautiful dress? Not cooking, not baking, not travel, not friends, not family๐Ÿค” (maybe writing, or books lol๐Ÿ˜ƒ)

It always comes back to this. To giving life to the myriad of designs dancing around in my head. And so maybe the process changes, as I play more administrative roles, and do less of production. And as the business grows, I find that the most beautiful part is in not being a one-man army. It’s in being surrounded by people who understand the vision, and are willing to run with me to achieve it.

Today, I look back at the subtle shift over the past 1 year, and the growing conviction to teach more people to do exceedingly greater than I ever could. To show them that where I am is just their starting point. And so I’m pouring myself out.

When I read INEC Nigeria‘s decision to postpone today’s elections, two things crossed my mind. One, it takes immense courage to take a look at a project, especially one involving others, and make the judgment call to suspend/postpone. The feelings of inadequacy, the perception of failure, or even irresponsibility… But sometimes, the only way to move forward, is to take a step back. I just wish that we’d learn to make that call early enough, rather than let ego and pride blind us to the reality of the warning signs.

Two, preparation. A lot of times, we’re too focused on how we perceive the end point to look like, that we forget to pay attention to the process, the journey of getting there. And so we arrive at the threshold of the set moment ill-prepared for the reality of execution. Of course, we need to then make the call between failing and looking like a failure (and taking the chance to learn from past mistakes and do it better), a decision that tells us, whether the journey has been an ego trip, or a determination to make a difference.

Love ๐Ÿ’–๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’

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Jane Oluwadare

She helps neurodivergent people build income models, sustainable systems and learning structures suited to their own unique contexts, strengths and abilities.

Schooled as a Biochemist with clinical exposure and practice, the graduate of the University of Ibadan has spent several years curating knowledge and expressing the many facets of her talents and personality. She is now committed to showing the next generation how to do everything, and win by building bridges from the past, leveraging history, technology and innovation to forge a future that works for them.

As a coach, she continues to work with individuals (with special focus on neurodivergent people) to work through choke points in their different facets, finding strategies that'll push them through to the next phase.

With over 15 years of sewing under her belt, she has over time in her experience with a wide range of female clothing and the female form, constructed entire wardrobes from the scratch. She brings this wealth of exposure and experience to bear in running her fashion house (Hadassah's Stitches Fashion House), guiding the production of dresses for sale, leveraging on her gift for fabric selection to suit contexts and soothe sensory needs. She also teaches classes on garment construction, pattern drafting and the business of fashion.

An International Youth Council member and Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organizations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young people to create a life of impact.

An avid food lover, chef and food critic, Hadassah spends her time creating new dishes, working as a private chef and running ZoรฉSpice Kitchen and Events. She is also curating her uniquely crafted kitchen secrets to be passed on. She puts all of her medical and nutritional experience together with over a decade of cooking and crafting recipes to create meal plans for her clients, helping them achieve a healthy lifestyle and desired body goal, based on everyday food items.

At the heart of her entrepreneurial ventures, she is the Executive Director of CriArt Skill Academy, a tech-driven school for creatives and neurodivergents to learn creative, social and life skills as backed up by their school curriculum. The wide array of options mean that no one is left behind, and there's an option that works for every student.

An avid writer, she uses her books and articles to educate, inform and entertain, making them valuable supporting resources in her work as a coach, mentor and teacher. They are available as e-copies, audiobooks, and in print.

At Phronesis Lighthouse, she continues to link people with knowledge, and ready to share, with people who are hungry to learn via programs, training, courses, and networking events.

She speaks, trains and consults, and has received numerous awards across her various spheres of influence.

At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfillment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression).