When a Yes…

When a yes blindsides you


You’ve been hard at work, giving it your best. You know that it’s way beyond you: you’ve reached out for help, gotten turned down, either because they can’t help, or because they can’t see what you see. (I’m ignoring the category of those who just don’t want to help).


You’ve put your back to the grind, rolled up your sleeves, knelt in the mud, gotten down to it. You’ve learned to pivot in the face of closed doors, to keep creating new answers.


Then you stumble into another opportunity, another chance. And out of habit, you try again. Not because you expect a yes, but because you’re just following routine (or maybe the call of your heart). In fact, you’re so sure that it’s a closed door (make that a locked door) that as you try, you’re already leaning on the door to catch your breath before moving on.


Then you fall in: it wasn’t a closed door. It was a wide open space. You’ve somehow, in your mad journey of rejections and disappointments, reached the outskirts of the zone of success. The breakthrough is chilling, strange, and you don’t know what to do with it.


  1. Keep doing. A yes is still an invitation to do more work. It’s the goals that changed, not the process.
  2. Celebrate. Cry if you have to. Dance like you know how to. Reflect. Rejoice. Refuel
  3. Expect more yeses. You are in the zone.


War with your prophecy, and win. God got you.


Abba loves you

…and so do I


Hadassah bath YHWH


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Jane Oluwadare

She helps neurodivergent people build income models, sustainable systems and learning structures suited to their own unique contexts, strengths and abilities.

Schooled as a Biochemist with clinical exposure and practice, the graduate of the University of Ibadan has spent several years curating knowledge and expressing the many facets of her talents and personality. She is now committed to showing the next generation how to do everything, and win by building bridges from the past, leveraging history, technology and innovation to forge a future that works for them.

As a coach, she continues to work with individuals (with special focus on neurodivergent people) to work through choke points in their different facets, finding strategies that'll push them through to the next phase.

With over 15 years of sewing under her belt, she has over time in her experience with a wide range of female clothing and the female form, constructed entire wardrobes from the scratch. She brings this wealth of exposure and experience to bear in running her fashion house (Hadassah's Stitches Fashion House), guiding the production of dresses for sale, leveraging on her gift for fabric selection to suit contexts and soothe sensory needs. She also teaches classes on garment construction, pattern drafting and the business of fashion.

An International Youth Council member and Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organizations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young people to create a life of impact.

An avid food lover, chef and food critic, Hadassah spends her time creating new dishes, working as a private chef and running ZoéSpice Kitchen and Events. She is also curating her uniquely crafted kitchen secrets to be passed on. She puts all of her medical and nutritional experience together with over a decade of cooking and crafting recipes to create meal plans for her clients, helping them achieve a healthy lifestyle and desired body goal, based on everyday food items.

At the heart of her entrepreneurial ventures, she is the Executive Director of CriArt Skill Academy, a tech-driven school for creatives and neurodivergents to learn creative, social and life skills as backed up by their school curriculum. The wide array of options mean that no one is left behind, and there's an option that works for every student.

An avid writer, she uses her books and articles to educate, inform and entertain, making them valuable supporting resources in her work as a coach, mentor and teacher. They are available as e-copies, audiobooks, and in print.

At Phronesis Lighthouse, she continues to link people with knowledge, and ready to share, with people who are hungry to learn via programs, training, courses, and networking events.

She speaks, trains and consults, and has received numerous awards across her various spheres of influence.

At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfillment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression).

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