The Currency of Relationships

“The currency of relationships is tricky, yet the most natural thing in the world.” – P. K. Hadassah 2018


One of the most annoying statements I’ve heard from a person, is “I value relationships”. Half the time, when someone has to say that, they’re looking for personal gain, and can feel it slipping through their fingers. You see, the currency of relationships is not predicated on the relationship itself, but vested in the person, and so you don’t need to focus on the relationship to spend that currency.


Did you catch that? Let me break it down. Have you ever loved a child? They can’t give you anything. They can’t help you to grow. They can’t do anything for you (that’s actually a big fat lie: there’s a whole lot that children can do for you, but for the sake of this writing, we’ll go with the flow). Do you know how to love a child? You do everything that they need, that’s within your capacity, and then some. You give of your self: your time, your person, your presence. When you’re with them, you are physically there. You reach out, check on them when they go silent, teach them when they go wrong, show them how to do better….

The child, recognizes your love, even when you don’t say the words, and they vibe back to you. They do random stuff to make you happy, go out of their way to please you, hug you with reckless abandon, and defend you when you’re not there (most children do). You don’t have to ask a child to do those things. They do it naturally for those they sense love them (it’s almost like an unseen radar that we have no idea how it works). They do these things thay make you so happy, that you unconsciously begin to do more. That cycle, is the currency of relationships, because you both grow to a point where you want to please the other.


That’s how to love a child …and that’s how to love a human: selflessly, without bounds or limits, or a hidden agenda/gain.

Hadassah (Excerpt from Kingdom Money Matters)

Author: Jane Oluwadare
Jane solves hard problems so you don't stay stuck Jane (Hadassah) OLUWADARE is an autistic, dyslexic multi-dimensional woman who uses her different dimensions to amplify one another, and is committed to showing other neurodivergent people how to replicate working wisdom in their respective contexts. In the PKH Network, she brings her various facets, strengths and skills to work together in viable business models, creating solutions for other visionaries, and providing platforms for young people to grow into their own strengths, develop experience and expertise As a data analyst, strategist and business development consultant in PKH Consulting, she sits with business structures to help them identify the gaps in their processes, build the blueprints, strategy, process flows and structures that will get them from where they are to where they want to be. As a productivity and execution coach in PHRONESIS Lighthouse, she works with neurodivergent people to get more productive, and do more with less effort, with particular attention to autistic people and people with ADHD. As a fashion consultant in HSFH, she styles, illustrates, and brings 15+ years of sewing experience to bear as she works to produce and sell stylish clothing that meets sensory, functional and fashionable needs. She teaches creative and trade skills in CriArt Skill Academy, working with neurodivergent children (with particular attention to autism, dyslexia and ADHD) to show them how their natural talents and tendencies can be an advantage inside and outside of the classroom and school curriculum. Utilising games and play as tools, as well as drawing from her own personal experience as a designer, chef and writer she helps them transfer the skills from the creative arts into school subjects and real life. She writes extensively, sharing her thoughts in books, articles and through her various enterprises as creative stories and non-fiction think-pieces available in Books By Hadassah. An International Youth Council member and former Global Youth Ambassador, she sits on the boards of several youth-led organisations in an advisory capacity; and continues to work with others to help develop children and young adults to create a life of impact. At the very core of her being, Hadassah keeps chasing after The One who keeps her balanced and finds the ultimate fulfilment in her fellowship with the Holy Spirit. She quips that He is the real super power that keeps her functioning as an autistic, dyslexic person with ADHD, and often shares the insights He teaches her on Personal Development, Business Development and mindset reorientation according to the Word with Deborah's Court (her ministry expression)

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